Free Yourself & Create The Relationship of Your Dreams

Begins January 10, 2021

Enrollment opens December 18, 2020

I have felt, first hand, what has had me (and so many women) settle for scraps in relationships. Many of us are so terrified of ending up alone, we stay in relationships that are actually deeply unsatisfying. 

The fear of possibly being alone forever — or, even worse, of feeling the depths of our longing for deep intimacy — is so great that we would rather settle, or keep seeking, than pause to truly be with ourselves — consciously & on purpose.

“Thank you for the profound gift that was this program and navigating us through with so much love and compassion. The tools you shared and the wisdom you offered is beyond value and I promise that I will use them forever. I can’t really express in words how much this process has meant to me. I will just have to show you by living the fullest life imaginable. So much love to you!”

—NMD Participant, 2020

But settling for crumbs doesn’t keep you fed — it keeps you starving.

A Little Bit About My Story

For a number of years I had been on-again-off-again dating a guy who refused to commit, who was often emotionally distant, and would come and go as he pleased.

There came a moment when I got fed up & began looking outside of this dynamic.  But, as is so often the case, I fell madly in love with another man who also wasn’t available for the kind of partnership I wanted. Occasionally, I threw my hands up at both of them and went on dates via OKCupid.

Here I was, dating these two men, but part of me was so lonely, craved connection in a deeper way, and was unconsciously waiting for a (real) partner so my life could begin. Until one day I got my wake up call when my lover told me this:

“I refuse to be the next man in your life who gives you just enough so that you don’t go for what you really want.”

This was one of the hardest, truest and most loving things a man had ever said to me. On the one hand, I felt heartbroken: I was in love with him. On the other hand, I knew he was telling the truth—not because he didn’t love me, but because he did—and in doing so, he was setting me free.

The next day I chose to put myself on a No-Man Diet. I knew in my bones that it was going to take radically letting go in order to get to the bottom of what was having me stay in these deeply unfulfilling dynamics. During my No-Man Diet, I made a commitment to get in right relationship with The Masculine, to figure out what I really wanted in a relationship, and to liberate my own desire to love and be loved.

The No Man Diet process brought me to my knees.

In all honesty, the moment I committed to my No Man Diet, I immediately felt a deep sense of fear and regret at the thought of giving up the little (romantic intimacy) I had—it seemed crazy. I knew I wasn’t getting what I wanted, but the fear of not having anything at all was so much more intense than continuing to settle for what I could get.

The No-Man Diet process brought me to my knees.

More than once, I found myself literally on the floor, calling on God or anyone who would listen. It was a dark and confusing time but also exquisitely beautiful. In those depths, I found myself again and fell back in love with parts of myself I had abandoned along the way in my quest for love.

Not only did I regain true sovereignty within myself, but I transformed my relationships with the women in my life, I began to truly and deeply love myself in ways I had only imagined before, I began to experience more pleasure, joy & fulfillment in all areas of my life, and as a bonus — I created a beautiful relationship with the man of my dreams.

You can have this too.

 

“When Kendra says this is a transformative experience; when she says this is a re-set for unraveling how you have been relating and exploring how you want it to be different – she is not kidding. The No-Man Diet and the skills I learned in this program caused a profound shift in how I showed up in my relationship, and therefore the relationship itself. It is no exaggeration to say that my relationship, and my life, feel entirely different. I got exactly what I had hoped out of this program! I cannot thank Kendra enough.”

—KK, NMD Participant 2019

“I got my clarity and so much more.”

Even after nearly 15 years of diving deep into the world of coaching & personal growth, I had had very few experiences that were as deep, that shifted my life so profoundly, or that had the kind of long-lasting change that came from my No Man Diet. My own transformation through a No Man Diet was potent & powerful, I knew I wanted to offer what I had experienced to other women.

What I have found after leading nearly 100 women through The No Man Diet is that women consistently get far more out of this process than they ever imagined!  Many women join (secretly) hoping they’ll meet ‘the one’, and over the 12 weeks what they truly find is that ‘the one’ really is themselves.

Nearly every woman who goes through The No Man Diet finds she can no longer settle in her relationships going forward.  Everything has changed – for the better!  

One of the most common stories I hear is of an amazing partner showing up….just in the moment a woman has stopped seeking outside herself for love & validation.  The beautiful stories I hear of the women who have met their dream partners, or completely turned relationships they believed were dead around keep me coming back to this program year after year, with joy.

“Working with Kendra during the No Man Diet helped me reclaim my role as arbiter of my own life, re-establish essential relationships with women in my life, and develop wide-ranging practices to create a life full of beauty and connection.”

—Jenna Moon

“Since the No Man Diet men come up to me and try to pick me up! (I swear I had an invisible shield that now can come down, when I want it to be down).”

—MG, 2020 NMD Participant

“I came across The No Man Diet at a time when I was searching for clarity about my marriage. I got my clarity and so much more.”

—Candace Folden

Through The No-Man Diet, You Will:

  • Gain emotional freedom
  • Step into committed relationship with yourself
  • Get in right relationship with men & The Masculine
  • Fall (back) in love with yourself (REALLY!)
  • Deepen your relationships with other women
  • Fall in love with your life
  • Discover your own Sacred Masculine
  • Express your deep Sacred Feminine
  • Practice boundaries with an open heart
  • Experience a loving & supportive community of women
  • (Re)Discover your radiance!
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The No-Man Diet is for you if...

  • You find yourself chronically single
  • You keep attracting the same kind of man
  • You’ve been to workshop after workshop about how to be ‘feminine’
  • You go back to your ex (for sex)…even when you know he’s not right for you
  • You’ve written countless Relationship Manifestos or Relationship Vision Boards
  • You’ve been on all the dating sites
  • You keep trying to convince yourself you’re happy with the occasional hook-up
  • You tell yourself you’re ‘just fine without a man, thank you very much’
  • You secretly read Cosmo’s “Top 10 Tips to Get The Man of Your Dreams” in the checkout line
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The No-Man Diet is NOT for you if...

  • You’re looking for a quick fix
  • You still really think the ‘problem’ is those ‘5lbs I just can’t seem to lose’ (or some other version of believing that changing the way you look will change everything)
  • You’re unwilling to set boundaries & ask for what you (really) want
  • You’re sure it’s all his fault

What Does The No-Man Diet Program Include?

  • 12 Teaching and Practice Modules: Each Sunday for 12 weeks, you’ll receive a new video lesson and specific practices to apply the teachings. Easily access your course materials via your private Member Site.
  • 4 Live Group Coaching Calls with Kendra
  • Regular personalized coaching inside the online Community Forum. 
  • A nurturing and supportive online community of women
  • Weekly Personal Inquiry Practices
  • Practical tools to put into action immediately….and use for the rest of your life.
  • Guided inquiries for personal reflection, intention-setting, and more.
  • Resources for further study and  practice. You’ll have access to a curated collection of Kendra’s all-time best resources for the duration of your program.

“So grateful for this experience. Thank you Kendra for guiding me to exactly where I want to be right now ❤️  I have 1 more week left of my {No Man Diet container}, and I am so happy with what I have achieved.”

—EM, 2020 NMD Participant

“Kendra’s No Man Diet is powerful, cleansing and healing in countless ways. Her insights, practices, support and suggestions are game changers in the complicated world of relationships and love. For the first time I felt safe, seen, empowered, supported as I dared to untangle the layers of emotions and conditioning connected to intimate relationships that have kept me trapped for so long. Thank you Kendra for creating such a safe container and revealing a pathway to new possibilities!”

—Cindy Thompson

Areas of Focus

Creating a Powerful Container

Right Relationship with The Feminine

Right Relationship with The Masculine

Self Trust & Self Love

Deep Inner Work

Setting Powerful Intention(s)

The Connection Between Boundaries & Love

Personal Practice(s)

The Power of Feeling

Pleasure & Power

Sacred Longing

Embodiment & Expression

Join The No-Man Diet

Registration begins December 18, 2020

What is being offered in The No-Man Diet is not a quick-fix, but an opportunity for integration of concepts, experiences, practices, and relationships over time.

Something magical & tangible happens when we make a commitment—we remove the energy leak of the recurring choice-point. When we commit, we put ourselves in the crucible of the container, and life arises to meet us there.

Registration begins December 18, 2020

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Frequently Asked Questions

Do I really have to give up dating and sex? Why?

In the end, you have to answer those questions for yourself. In the program, we’ll spend two full weeks creating each woman’s unique container and agreements, because it’s so personal. However, I make a very strong recommendation that you give up all dating, sex and romantic relationships (that includes those late-night booty calls to your ex!). The reason is that in order to truly create something new, you must truly let go of old habits, but not what you are really longing for.

Having an insight and actually making different choices are two very different things!  What I’ve seen time and time again is that women have insights around how they want to relate to dating and sex differently, but still keep behaving in ways that are counter to that insight.

And when you are filling your time, attention and energetic space with relating that does not truly nourish you, there is no room for the kind of relationship(s) you say you want.

Having the support of a coach and a community of women on the same path is huge in being able to hold firm to these agreements we make with ourselves.

Am I allowed to hang out with my guy friends?

That depends. I would suggest paying close attention to why you need to hang out with them during this time?  What are you afraid of losing if you let them know you needed some time apart – not because there is any problem, but because you are taking time to really love yourself (better).

If a man—friend or romantic relationship—can’t allow you the space you need for you and you, then there is usually some addiction going on in the dynamic between you.

Of course, you don’t need to create 12 weeks of your life where you never come in contact with any men! But you will grow more and more aware of all the ways you use your interactions with men as a means of validation.  And that is the place to practice.

I’m separated from my husband but still married, is the No-Man diet for me?

Absolutely!  This could be the perfect container to hold you during this time.

For my relationship, it was my willingness to truly let it go, that allowed us to create the beautiful partnership we have today.  This is like winter and how many plants need to die back in order to bloom or fruit again in the spring.

I can’t say whether you will choose to be romantic partners on the other side or not, but I can promise you, that if you truly give yourself to this process, you can absolutely create the Right Relationship (for you) with each other on the other side.

The freedom to make a true choice about whether to stay together or get a divorce comes from the willingness to let what is die, so that what might be—divorce or continued partnership—has fertile ground to grow in.

I’m not looking for a man right now – I’m looking for clarity around what I can ask for from a partner and what I need to be able to source elsewhere….is the No-Man Diet for me?

This is actually the foundation of The No-Man Diet.

What I discovered during my own experience, was what my true desires even were.  From there, I got right with wanting them, whether someone could meet them or not.

I also found all these ways that I was deeply fulfilled, alone. And it was the willingness to really surrender into the aloneness that allowed me to find the fulfillment. It’s one thing to conceptually understand, but it wasn’t until I walked the path that I really got (like, in my bone marrow) how deeply fulfilled I could be alone.

Can’t I just do this on my own? Why do I need to do your program?

The container is crucial. It holds us when we have really good excuses, or reasons, for stepping outside it. My container was held and shared with many people—I was working with a coach the whole time, I shared it with other men friends, women friends and colleagues. I had a very strong support system. I was very clear about what I was doing, what the guidelines were and for how long – and my people were there for me through it all – especially the moments when I wanted to quit.

I can almost guarantee that, at some point, you will meet The One during this process, and fully convince yourself you’ve gotten the lesson and it is time to quit.  That is when having the community of women, as well as myself to share and receive feedback honestly is invaluable.

When are the live calls?

  1. Monday, January 25, 2021 at 10am (PT)
  2. Monday, February 15, 2021 at 2pm (PT)
  3. Monday, March 8, 2021 at 10am (PT)
  4. Monday, March 29, 2021 at 2pm (PT)

When is the Early Registration bonus call?

Monday, November 30, 2020 at 10am (PT)

Are the calls recorded?

Absolutely!  The live group coaching calls will be recorded & added to the Member Site within 48 hours.

Is The No Man Diet only for heterosexual women?

Nope!  I have had lots of women who identified as gay, lesbian, or bisexual go through The No Man Diet.  All of these women have said that the content & practices within The No Man Diet were completely transferable to ALL their relationships.  I do my best to keep my language neutral & also try to be honest that I am still a work in progress in this area.

How many hours/week do I need to allocate for The No Man Diet?

This is a personal decision.  Some women get enough by being in the container & watching each week’s video.  Other women watch each week’s video a few times, take on daily practices, and show up for all the live calls.  Either one, and everything in between, can work — as long as it works for you!

On average, we would recommend setting aside 1-3 hours per week.

What if I’m not able to keep up with the content? Will I have access to it later?

While most of the content will work within your life, rather than be ‘another thing to do’ & we recommend creating space in your life or the work of The No Man Diet, we also recognize that sometimes other things will take your attention — or you may just need to move through the content more slowly.

For this reason, women in The No Man Diet have often heard me say “You are not behind & it’s not possible to be behind.  This is your No Man Diet.  You cannot be behind on your own process.”

We also make all the content & practices downloadable, so you can have lifetime access as long as you download them before the completion of the program.  Many women have emailed me even years later to say they are still finding the teachings valuable in their lives & relationships!

“I felt fully accepted and LOVED for who I was.”

“I came across The No Man Diet at a time when I was searching for clarity about my marriage. I got my clarity and so much more. The content alone was amazing and intuitive.

But what really made the No Man Diet powerful and transformative for me was what Kendra herself brought to the space. She was impeccably present. She invited me to explore the depths of myself in a way that nobody had before and she held witness to ALL the parts of me with such tenderness and reverence that it often brought tears to my eyes.

She had a brilliant ability to cut through layers of my self-deception while simultaneously making it clear that she cared for me no matter where I was on my path. She showed me through her own example how to offer devotion to myself. She not only welcomed every inquiry I had, but treated it as a sacred offering. And she had this beautiful way of teasing out the threads and nuances of my process so that I was able to digest it and feel hopeful instead of overwhelmed. I felt fully accepted and LOVED for who I was.

This program had such a tremendous impact on me that I enrolled in her longer immersion, Fierce Grace, simply for the chance to continue to learn and grow from her. I did not hesitate for one second about Fierce Grace, and I will continue to jump at every opportunity I can to be at the feet of such a wise and masterful teacher. Thank you Kendra — you changed my life.”

—Candace Folden

“I’m in love with you (Kendra). Really. You’ve been a very much needed role model of how to be a soft + strong woman all at the same time. I really hope I get a chance to work with you again. It’s been nothing like I expected and I’m so much Club Cunov now.  Seriously though, thank you. Your work is changing my life and those around me.”

—LS

“Since Kendra has been my teacher and coach over the last year I have learned the art of being comfortable in my own skin by slowing down, staying with my breath, the power of meditating, and learning how boundaries in relationships are honoring for myself and those I choose to be in relationship with. {Her} delicate yet firm, no nonsense coaching style has elevated my life in ways no other coach has of mine to date. (And I have had many!)”

—Sandy Sembler

“Thank you so much for this Kendra. This experience has absolutely changed my perspective on what a container is.

—OM, 2020 NMD Participant

“(Through The No Man Diet) I learned there is a deeper, richer way of being and relating ready to reveal itself in every moment. I am no longer afraid when conflict comes up.

—KK

{My relationships with other women}  have deepened in ways that I will never be able to comprehend. This healing of my relationships with women has been the foundation I’ve always needed to be ME, and stay connected to me in (while in) relationship.”

—KB

About Kendra

Founder of The Collective: A Global Web of Women Devoted to Embodied Wholeness, Kendra Cunov has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for over fifteen years.

Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression.

She co-founded Authentic World & The Fierce Grace Incubator, as well as The Embodied Relationship Training Salon (with John Wineland), and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet.

Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & been on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world.

She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that embodied presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success – in business & in love.

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